Thursday, 24 December 2015

Christmas' family tradition

Some people have traditions for dinner, for presents, for decorations, for invitations... we have special traditions! What happens in the Leoni's family on Christmas Eve? Sam gets sick, meaning he vomits: yes, it's already two years in a row, so we can call it a tradition, can't we?

Well, if you want something more Christmasy from us, why don't you go to soundcloud (see bar above) and listen to our Christmas greetings? 

If you really don't want to (why?), here we go

MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL OF YOU!

Monday, 21 December 2015

Pre-Christmas update

Long overdue update on our situation here: for the sake of clarity and shortness, as factual as can be, leaving extensive comments for another occasion.
As you might have guessed from reading posts below and/or listening to our sounds (see bar above for soundcloud), things are not going well at all, and have not for a while. 
Mattia was stopped from his very good work with children, youth and mothers at the end of October and therefore resigned from his post, as he cannot work with/for an organisation which chases children and mothers out of its (and his!) premises. Resignations were not accepted, but after a month of soul-draining wait for a supposedly helpful visit from our coordinator, the outcome was simply having to listen to the Bishop firing Mattia, quoting as reasons that he goes to the slums and even to the police (not to be arrested, but to plead for the release of youngsters) and that he gathers too many unknown children and mothers: if all this is wrong, well then it is right to be fired; sadly, our sending agency just accepted the Bishop's decision and, to add salt to the wound, decided to fire Elena "as a consequence", meaning that now both our contracts have been terminated, though, despite all her troubles and frustrations she was willing to continue her job, the Church had nothing against her doing so and we were ready to keep going with only one contract and/or to look for alternative options, such as being re-deployed to other centres managed by the Church, to keep the partnership alive without the constant clashes we have been experiencing in Kigali. 
Not only they let Mattia down without saying a word and fired Elena without any real reason, but they even expect us to go away "immediately", or "as soon as possible"; yet, not being parcels but a family, we are trying to stay as long as we can, to manage the transition to our uncertain future in the best possible way, taking as much time as we need, also to finish as decently as we can all we started and worked on so passionately for nearly a year. 
We are currently arguing about our departure's date and it is hard to understand what we really want or feel like we should or actually can do in the near future, so we are not in a position to tell you anything more specific yet.

In the meantime, to escape a destiny of mental breakdown, we've stuck to our pre-disaster plans and  now that the kids are off school for their Christmas break, we have fled Kigali to seek shelter in Kibogora, a village in the West, on the beautiful shores of Lake Kivu, where the Methodist Church   founded a hospital decades ago; we are staying in one of a wonderful group of houses for missionary families, for some much needed holidays and for Elena to spend some days (both before Christmas and in the new year) training the hospital's physiotherapists in Paper Furniture, so that they can manufacture assistive devices using cardboard and paper, and homemade glue. 

Saturday, 28 November 2015

Invitation for people in Clonakilty

There will be crafts made by some mothers from our projects in Kigali, Rwanda: necklaces, plates and shopping bags.

Thursday, 19 November 2015

Article on Rwanda... uncut

(Article published on One Mission Matters, magazine of the Methodist Church missionary section; here in its entirety, as we have more space!)

Rwanda, “the land of a thousand hills”, the country of the Mountain Gorillas… sure, but who isn’t thinking of the genocide first?
Yet, that was 1994 and since then the country has been peaceful, rebuilding and reconciling, so in 2015 it’s hard to see a direct impact of those 100 hellish days on modern Rwanda: the orphans are now in their 20s, at least; what was destroyed has been rebuilt or replaced; trials are mostly ended; the following wars, fought outside the country, are basically over and ethnicity is no longer mentioned. Moreover, as cynical as it might seem, in actual fact the genocide has had some very positive consequences: from the guilt and compassion of the West a huge stream of aid has been flowing for 21 years to this very small country, allowing it to grow much more than others, so that it now boasts tarmac main roads, a great number of schools and health centres, very good access to ARVs, political stability, high-ranking levels of security and an economy that keeps receiving praises for its GDP growth.
All good, then?
Unfortunately not: if the typical problems of poor countries might be slightly less crippling here due to the aforementioned development, they are all still present, at times made harder to tackle by peculiarities clearly arising from 1994.
First of all, the genocide was part of a war and in every war, especially civil and ethnic ones, the first casualty is truth: the historical truth about those events has not been fully revealed yet (watch the BBC documentary issued in October 2015), which prevents the country from achieving real reconciliation, despite many wonderful examples of forgiveness, and it may well be that even Rwandans’ terrible (and admitted) habit of lying to protect or pursue their interests is a consequence of how the country dealt, from top to bottom, with that dark page of its recent past, where so many people had something to hide. As anyone can imagine, to work in such a context of constant lies, where you cannot trust anyone, is extremely stressful.
Secondly, inequality in developing countries is quite common and astonishingly higher than in the West, but here it is even more painful to see, not only because with all that aid publicly available this “unified” society should have grown more evenly, but also because inequality works partly along those same ethnic lines which have now “disappeared” (only because the topic is banned): one portion of the population has clearly benefitted much more from some forms of aid, as only the victims-victors were entitled to receive it, and still are.
Thirdly, as in most post-disaster countries, the enormous influx of money has created a culture of “milk the white man” and a tendency to rely on external sources which permeate all society, church included, making it difficult not to feel like a wallet-on-legs and hard to instill any sense of responsibility and ownership in projects.

Last, but not least, the current leadership, in order to maintain its iron grip of power, has turned freedom of expression into “something for western countries”, as we’ve been bluntly told (“to protect us”) by a religious figure who, like too many people, justifies the dictatorial regime with the excuse that “Rwanda went through the genocide”; therefore, discussing policies or showing any form of dissent is out of the question, which is not only soul-destroying for human rights lovers and defenders, but, more importantly, absolutely incompatible with a healthy and just society.

Sunday, 8 November 2015

If you're not listening...

... you can still read!

Those who are not accustomed yet to listening to us on soundcloud, ("MEMS Leoni") can find out here about the latest sad developments of our mission, especially's Mattia, but in Elena's words, so you can't blame him, for a change.

Nearly two weeks ago, we had a meeting with Bishop and some representatives of the the church, whom we are serving in Rwanda, and it felt more like an ambush than a meeting. They had already decided in their hearts to stop what Mattia was doing for the poor children and their mums and they did it by using the authority card.


It didn’t really matter what Mattia had to say to defend his work, as he had always kept them updated through several reports (and meetings) about his ministry and Bishop all along said that he was doing a good job; Mattia also tried to involve the church more and more, but in the past few months, even if verbally they kept saying that what Mattia was doing was good, they kept closing one door after another (literally, they locked the school where Mattia's activity used to take place), until they got the point of ordering him to stop.



It didn’t matter how many people we helped, how many people we brought closer to the church, nothing makes sense…
They complained the children clothes are not good enough... laughing at this. They brought up safety issue and more and more excuses reaching the absurdity of even telling us that our house is in the Church compound so that they have a say in whoever can come or not into our house...



It was a really hard week, with many tears, frustration, sadness and questioning why we have to go through this. The faces of the children not understanding why they couldn’t come for their sports and lessons any more and desperately asking when they could come back, what they did wrong, as tears filled theirs eyes…. The desperation of the mums that cannot meet in the church grounds just to learn to save so as to be able to send their children to school next year… The teenagers now forced back in the street in the evening instead of coming for singing, praying, dancing, lessons and Bible study….



We know we touched many people since we have been here, but Mattia felt called to serve the least of the least, especially the poor children and their mums, most of them single mothers, but now all this has been taken away from him…



Now we are in limbo, we accepted with humility what we were commanded to do and now we have to wait till the end of the month for the visit of our coordinator from the UK and only God knows how things will be then. They keep saying that they have no problem with Elena's job, but she's had many issues along the way too.


The whole relationship with this "Church" is now crumbling, as we don't want to worship, with our children, in a Church who refuses, excludes and discriminates the needy, as this is not what we can call Church. So, we've started looking for other places and recently we've been going to an Anglican Church.